While it is a known fact that much of parenting has something to do with teaching, in the long run one will realize that it has a lot to do with being taught. Fatherhood can be seen from many angles, even from a psychological perspective, and yet it ends up saying the same truth about the matter; that despite all its shortcomings, it is always a wonderfully satisfying learning experience. Here are eight things every dad can learn about fatherhood:
It teaches you to be more patient. Without patience, the beauty of fatherhood will lose its meaning. A dad needs to be patient with his young children because it is at this stage that they need it most. But losing patience is sometimes inevitable. Every time you get impatient, you can remind yourself that, like you, it is normal for your children to make many mistakes. But you can serve as a good role model for them when they are still in the process of discovering and developing their unique set of characteristics and talents.
It teaches you to cherish memories. It is important for a dad like you to spend quality time with your little ones because it is a way of assuring them that you care about them and that you will always be there as pillars of support. Your children may one day leave your home to find their ways of life. But you can cherish all these beautiful memories you had with them.
It teaches you to respect women. Both mom and dad should be appreciated in the roles they play as parents. But disrespecting the mother of your children is a big no. Loving the mother of your children is considered one of the most important things you can do for your children.
It teaches you to sacrifice a thing or two. You don’t become dad if you don’t sacrifice something once in a while. In fact, it only makes fatherhood more meaningful if you can sacrifice more for your children. You would love to do everything you can for your children, even to the point that they have to test your patience.
It teaches you how to be joyful in life. Your commitment to raising your children to become better persons can lead you to live a joyful life. As a dad, you can truly say that despite all you’ve seen and experienced in life (both good and bad), all the best times, all the strongest memories are those spent with your children.
It teaches you how to become a better person. When you are aware of the fact that every moment could mean that there is someone else you have to think about, then you know that self-centeredness should not exist in your vocabulary. Fatherhood reminds you that you are fallible; that you can make mistakes and that you still have a lot to learn about parenting. It allows you to discover your capacity to love and makes you incredibly grateful for everything you have. Once you learn how little you know, how vulnerable you can be and accept and strive to improve them, you learn the best through humility.
It teaches you how to be responsible. You may have had no idea what responsibility truly was until your first child came into the world. You know, things like changing a diaper, feeding, waking up in the middle of the night to attend to your son’s needs, and working hard to earn the things necessary for the survival of your family. Suddenly, everything you have is no longer your own: money, time, attention and more. But all that you have had and obtained must be shared with this little creature and all of his pressing needs.
It teaches you to focus on what really matters. Fatherhood can keep you from worrying about the little things and guides you to focus on what’s really important. When your love for your family and your commitment to raising your children to become awesome persons motivates you the most, then your work, material things, and other activities become trivial. Real dads are willing to give up everything for their children, even to the point that doing so can lead them to lose a prestigious job, a large sum of money, or the nicest possessions. You as a dad knows better; that none of those things matter compared to the love you had for your children.