Every relationship we can have with an individual or other people is unique. We can think of things we would like to expect a lot of, especially in the way other people should interact with us. But once these expectations fall short, we often attract negative emotions as a result, creating a tension that should not have been there in the first place.
We don’t always have to tell people that a relationship requires work, but it is useful for anyone to know, however, about the most effective ways that can help to strengthen such a commitment. And although each relationship is unique, and maintaining a good, beautiful, and healthy one with time can be difficult, the initial stage in which we fall in love with a person is always easy. The big challenge, however, lies in how to keep it strong, healthy, and beautiful in the long run. This is how we can keep our relationship healthy, strong, and beautiful:
We must express or show our love in actions every single day. There are a million different ways we can show someone or other people how much we love them. We must make our relationships with other people very personal, that is, expressing or showing our love in actions to them daily. But there are times, in our attempt to do what we believe is necessary and to prove that we can express or show our love in actions to the person or persons with whom we are in a relationship, we become obsessed with the great ways in which we are bringing everything on the table in the best way that we can, just so we can show that we care. But the truth is that, however, there are many small, subtle but equally important ways in which we can show our love every day.
We can spread love even with small, simple, and personal gestures. We can show love by kissing and hugging each other every day. We can show love by taking our partners to real dates. We can show love by giving flowers to the other person, sharing words of appreciation, and simply holding the hands of those who have captured our hearts.
There are times when it is easier for us to think that the people around us know how much we care and appreciate them when, in fact, they do not. Some people may not feel our love until we really make an effort to put that love into action. The very nature of love is the offering of oneself to the other person in such a way that it impels us to be kind, considerate, and to be wonderful human beings.
We must be encouraging and enthusiastic for love. We must encourage those around us to grow and look for what makes them happy. But we must have enough enthusiasm for ourselves first, so that we can have the courage to encourage and inspire all those around us. In this crazy world that tries to make us like everyone else, we must find the courage to continue being our great selves.
We must find ways to inspire people as we grow in the best version of ourselves at the same time. We must recognize and accept the uniqueness of our individuality: our ideas, strength, kindness, passion, and beauty like nobody else. We must show a person that we really care about them, not only in words, of course, but also in our actions.
We must reflect enthusiasm every day to the people with whom we are in contact, through our genuine smiles, concerns, willingness to listen, and positive energy. We must take part in something we believe in, which can be anything. Some people get involved in something they firmly believe in, which brings happiness and meaning to their lives.
It is difficult for other people not to be inspired by us when they see that we are passionate about what we are doing. We must bear in mind that passion is something that we should be willing to express to inspire others. Our expressive passion can be such that it allows people to be curious about why we love what we love so much.
We can hear from a lot of people complaining about the lack of love in their lives. No matter what the cause or reason of why they feel this way, we must help them heal and make them feel good about themselves. We must show a deep interest and be willing to listen to the story of their lives that they can tell us. Instead of judging them by their past, we can choose to support them and help repair their future.
Our enthusiasm for love will not only make us more productive, but it will alleviate burdens and make obstacles easier to overcome not only for us, but also for those whose lives we have touched. When we no longer care about our relationship with a person or other people, surely that relationship is on the verge of collapse. But we can be, if we choose to be on the other side of the coin, passionate, amazing, and enthusiastic for the love we can share.
We must admit our flaws. Human beings are, essentially, ego-driven creatures, and the ego, or should I say “too much ego,” can be bad for any relationship. One of the characteristics of the ego is that it seeks reciprocity. It also seeks visibility.
This is the reason why most of these self-centered people like to use others to get what they want. Self-centered people think of a relationship as something from which they can gain something like affection, for example, or avoid rejection. Although most of us believe that it is difficult to tame our egos, the task, however, is not entirely insurmountable.
The fact that we are all intrinsically defective as human beings will make us prone to make mistakes in the process and in every area of our lives. Someone must show us a person who claims to be without fault and we can show everyone a dirty liar. Everyone has at least one flagrant weakness or two, and this is the reason why we must accept our deficiencies to humanize ourselves in such a way that other people can relate to us on a deeper level.
On the contrary, the ego must conspire to refuse to recognize and correct such errors because it knows that every time we correct a mistake and get closer to enlightenment, a part of it diminishes. We must admit our flaws and do our best to correct them as soon as possible before they can become a big problem that will be difficult to solve. There is no shame in admitting that we have defects or that we were wrong in a particular situation.
And although, honestly, it can be very difficult for some of us to admit when we are wrong, but we must have the courage and strength of character and spirit to accept the things we need to change. We must remember that we can never learn from our mistakes if we do not recognize that we made these mistakes in the first place. The change can be scary, and most especially in our relationships with other people, but our willingness to improve the situation is worth it.
A sense of humor is important in a relationship. Maybe we can all agree to say that life can’t be too serious all the time. And although we know that sometimes life, or our relationship with a person or other people, most importantly, should be taken seriously, no one can live like that all the time. But we have to leave space for a little joy if we want to have a balanced love life.
We must learn to laugh more and more often, even in difficult times, since being able to laugh is healthy for all. We all have, each one of us, our own way of expressing humor, in such a way that it has become a unique special gift that helps define our individuality. If we can learn to have joy, regardless of the circumstances, then we can overcome anything, and it’s not just about saying funny things, of course.
Every time we see some humor in every difficult situation we are experiencing, especially in our relationships with others, we will know that we can also be there to bring joy to them. A sense of humor is our ability to see the brighter side of a particular situation and to be delighted in it. It’s worth the effort to find humor in life, and in our relationships with others, and appreciate what they can also bring to improve the situation.
We must communicate well with our partner. The importance of good communication in a relationship is often ignored by many people. It is not surprising, since it is probably one of the most difficult but necessary aspects in a relationship to maintain. The lack of effective communication can create unwanted problems that should not have been there in the first place if we only learn to be effective communicators.
Once we avoid sharing with our partner the problems we had with respect to our relationship with others, we contribute more to the problems than we think. We must bear in mind that in each communication situation through which to involve another person, there are two elements present: the person with whom we relate and the problem or behavior to which we are addressing. It is the ability of a good communicator to be able to distinguish between the problem and the person, being softer with the person and harder with the issue or problem. A poor communicator, on the other hand, will do the opposite.
We should never be afraid to share our feelings with others. We should never fear being vulnerable. We must be open, direct, and truthful in our dealings with the people with whom we are in relationship. Effective communication, no matter how difficult it may seem to us, is a skill we can learn through practice. Once we learn how to become effective communicators, it will allow us to solve any problem we have in our relationships, and even in other areas of our lives, easily together while having fun at the same time.